"A marketplace has emerged where shame is a commodity and public humiliation an industry" - Monica Lewinsky
As those who know me (and that one person who reads me here) will attest, I started this blog two years ago, in an effort to reclaim and restore the health of my name ...
Today, if you search me by name online -- Google or otherwise, the name "Jeff Glovsky" -- you may be confused, a little bit ...
but you won't be alarmed.
You won't be "advised" or "warned" about me. It won't be opined that I'm a "fraud" or running a "scam" ... egregiously reported I've 'changed my name' or "disappeared" (?, ?! and ??).
Instead, you'll see what I do, where I am and who ... What I think about you, if you try to exploit the professional, then needlessly public, resultingly personal failure in my life five years ago;
if you try to cash in on that, as some have, without even knowing me, let alone knowing the full and accurate picture back in 2010, or the context of public accusations and their actual circumstances ... Instead, just piling on hysterically, flailing in response to the damaging, (thus far) permanent online "yelps" which remain -- those few that I haven't (yet) been able to remove from the internet -- you'll end up frustrated. And/or legally thwarted.
As some have.
There is nothing that's worse than the fears, paranoias, mistrusts and mistakes that the internet, in its ease-of-use ubiquitousness and far-flung global reach, can breed. The righteousness, the indignations, Schadenfreude and misplaced anger it creates ... the fanning of flames, the men and women it blames ...
The damages that YOU -- "the internet" -- can too easily cause.
In some cases (too many!), your harshing and judging and chiding and "owning" ... Your relentless attacking, name-calling, abusing if you feel aggrieved or inconvenienced, or because things can't be "instant" and you're impatient ... or just.because. ... can end in tragedy.
In my case, after several years of shell-shock subsided and I was finally able to rise from the dead and fight back -- in part, by calling out new aggressors while unequivocally identifying crimes of theft of reputation -- I find, in my favor, I'm not alone.
Online shaming by kangaroo court is increasingly recognized as the bullying and intimidation that it is ... and every website that provides a one-sided, unbalanced, often unmoderated public forum for such ranting and venting: opinions, "reviews" or accusations without verification -- guilt before innocence -- should be taken down.
Just as we -- "the internet" -- are for some reason required to "opt out" of things, as opposed to being asked to opt in ...
We, The Internet, have got everything else wrong also. Nobody should be required to "sign up" to view a website. Nobody should need to use Facebook for "verification". Nobody should ever accept being charged -- sorry, "authorized" -- on a credit card before making a purchase ...
And nobody should ever be blindsided online ... harassed and insulted, and forced to "fight back".
The public displays can be embarrassing.
|“Well Hung”, ©Jeff Glovsky|